Tip 147: December 2020 –The 3 R’s Relationships, Respect, &
Website Educational Tips for Cognitive Development
In Pojman & Fieser’s book Ethics: Discovering Right and Wrong
the concept of ethics manifests itself in the consequentiality principle.
Adults need to focus on encouraging young children to foster character
development. They should support children while they impart ethical values
to help them learn about the consequences of their actions.
Our technological society is fast paced and it requires lots of efficiency,
flexibility, and time. Therefore, adults may not have the time leftover to
communicate the values of relationships, respect, and responsibility. The
following ideas can serve as a guide to meet the different needs and
interest of young children.
The most important relationships infants have are with their parents. An
important activity parents can do, beginning right at birth, is to read to
their child every day. As infants get older, adults can set up obstacle
courses inside. Have them crawl over, under, through, around, inside,
outside, and beside. These skills help to develop muscular coordination,
and a better understanding of spatial relationships. Crawling is one of the
most important and often overlooked skills, especially for infants.
Children who have skipped this stage have a higher rate of learning
disabilities. One form of therapy is to practice crawling. Studies have
found that crawling develops both the right and left hemispheres of the
Toddlers should be encouraged to care for things in their immediate
environment. Start by having them put their toys away when they’re finished
playing. Asian philosophy believes in treating things in nature with
respect. In their concept of “reincarnation” it is believed that you come
back as that which you disrespected, so praise children when they respect
nature by not stepping on ants or killing spiders. Take toddlers outside to
go on nature walks and explore. Allow them to look, listen, touch, and
smell things safely. Interacting safely outdoors is a great way to develop
a respect for nature.
Children need limits (rules) to feel secure. These rules set boundaries for
them to succeed. They quickly learn that their actions produce
consequences, and it is these consequences which teach them the order by
which society runs. The goal is to help children make good choices in their
lives and to develop responsibility. To that end, as they get older they
need to start having both home and school responsibilities (chores). This
then gets translated to responsibilities to others and then to the
community at large, like collecting food for the homeless at Thanksgiving
or giving to “Toys for Tots” for the holidays.
KINDNESS IN WORDS CREATES CONFIDENCE.
KINDNESS IN THINKING CREATES PROFOUNDNESS.
KINDNESS IN GIVING CREATES LOVE. (LAO TSE)