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"Tip 168: September 2022 - Promoting Guidance Techniques "
   September, 2022

Tip 168: September 2022 – Promoting Guidance Techniques

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Guidance means teaching. What is done on any single incident is not as
important as what is taught on each of those occasions. Adults need to set
limits, and children will begin to explore what is and what is not allowed.
When children do not need to misbehave to gain attention, they are free to

Infants: Routines

Routines are really important in making infants feel secure because they
don’t like change. They feel comfortable in knowing what is going to happen
next. Things that are done everyday in the same way go a long way in
helping to do that. Infants need to have a primary caregiver to provide
loving, caring supervision. They use daily routines to enrich experiences
that infants are having, such as singing to them when they are feeding
them, or singing nursery rhymes when changing their diapers. This activity
alone which occurs some 7,000 times in an infant’s life can have a major
impact if used wisely.

Toddlers: Temper Tantrums

These are signs of frustration and anger, usually because children don’t
have the chance or the ability to be independent and make their own
decisions. Adults need to stay calm, but be firm and consistent. They
should try to redirect the child’s attention. They should not give the
child what they want or show that the tantrum upsets them. They should say,

“When children are crying, then I can’t hear their words.” Then they should
say “Use your words to tell me what you want.”

Preschoolers: Set Limits

There should be three basic limits: (1) Respect for ourselves (2) Respect
for each other (3) Respect for the environment. It is important to tell
children what to do not what not to do. An example might be
instead of saying “Don’t Run” – Say “We Use Walking Feet Inside.” Try not
to use don’t or no all the time, and avoid ultimatums. Choose words or
actions that build confidence by showing your approval. Do this by a nod, a
smile, or speaking in a pleasant tone: “Thank you for picking up the

Adults should emphasize the children’s successes because success creates
internal motivation. They should point out the strengths and show children
where they have made progress. This will help them to feel successful and
success breeds more success. Adults should expect progress in children not
perfection, because not all techniques will work with all children all of
the time. It take patience and consistency to find the ones that will work.
It take time to change and new techniques need to be practiced many times
for them to have an impact on behavior. Remember to always let children
know that they are love, and they are accepted for who they are, not for
what they do. Show trust and confidence in children’s abilities and
decisions. When adults recognize children’s efforts then improvements will