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 For Social and Emotional Development


"Tip 132: September 2019 – Excellence: The Key To Success "
   September, 2019

The most readily identifiable qualities of successful children are the
overall attitudes of personal optimism and enthusiasm. The most successful
children soon learn that life is a self-fulfilling prophecy; that they
usually get what they actively expect. Leadership - the ability to attract
the support and cooperation of other children - is a natural byproduct of
excellence.

Infants:
Connections
– The infant’s personal growth develops by making connections with their
family and other important adults in their life. These loving relationships
seem to be a common goal for successful people. This results when an infant
gains satisfaction from associations that are significant to that infant,
such as their family, and these adults affirmed their importance to that
infant. By belonging to a family the infant develop security. There are a
number of ways an adult can enhance these connections: (1) Show affection
through physical contact. (2) Adults can show positive feelings on their
face toward the infant. (3) Adults can tell them in words that they feel
good about the infant. (4) Adults should read to infants everyday.

Toddlers:
Confidence
– Successful toddlers subconsciously know that their self-image acts as a
life-governing device. If in their self-image they feel that they can’t
possibly do something, then they literally cannot do it! The toddler’s
behavior and performance are consistent with their self-image. When the
toddler has a positive self-image that gives them confidence, that will
lead to success and excellence. The following are some ways to strengthen
toddler’s confidence. (1) Adults can provide toddlers many opportunities to
work and play in groups. (2) Adults can present rules to encourage good
relations.

(3) All toddlers should have responsibilities and chores. (4) Adult should
foster positive peer problem solving solutions.

Preschoolers:
Motivation
– Preschoolers are motivated by their fears, inhibitions, obsessions, and
attractions. These attitudes can help or hinder their success toward
excellence. They can be pushed or pulled toward other preschoolers who act
as negative or positive magnets. Fear and desire are both powerful
motivators. Fear is destructive,

while desire can lead to achievement, success and excellence. There are a
number of strategies that preschoolers can use focus on the rewards of
excellence and success more than the penalties of failure. (1) Adults can
help preschoolers to actively tune-out fears of failure and replace the
word “can’t” with the word “can.” (2) They can encourage preschoolers to
replace the word “try” with the word “will.” This establishes a new
attitude of dwelling on things they will do, rather than on things they
plan to try.

(3) Adults should support a better ways of doing things. Optimism and
pessimism are learned behavioral attitudes. They should reinforce the
preschooler’s use of positive

self-talk. (4) Adults can assist them to find something good in all of
their personal relationships and to accentuate the positives even in the
most difficult circumstances.


Success is like riding a bicycle. Either you keep moving or you fall
over.







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